Recently, when asked about the effect the #MeToo movement has had on male celebrities and their professional lives, I had a peer make the comment, "We're going to lose some of the good ones." Confusion erupted. "Lose them? Didn't they do this to themselves." "The good ones? Nothing about them is good." "If you say… Continue reading A Response To The #MeToo Movement: We’re Going To Lose Some of the Good Ones
Recently I attended a training that involved practicing introducing ourselves as professionals, I dare say, even experts. Picture some of the most influential or up-and-coming nonprofit leaders in the community, all wearing dress shirts and pantyhose, sitting in a circle, taking turn after turn, listing their title and why they are "the expert in the… Continue reading Ladies, You Are The Experts in the Room: Fighting Impostor Syndrome
When I first got my period, my mom told everyone. That’s normal, right? Even if that is normal, it didn't stop me from feeling weird or gross as people looked at me like I was “finally a woman.” I was just a kid who didn’t even understand the truth about sex yet. When I got… Continue reading We’re Missing Conversations That Need To Happen – How LOLA Is Beginning That Trend.
Trigger warnings: stealthing, sexual assault. No, we're not talking about stealthing in terms of gaming or gender. I wish. Stealthing: the act of removing a condom during sex without the consent of the partner. In 2010, the term was used to describe someone who had intercourse with an individual without disclosing their HIV/STI status, putting… Continue reading The Not-So-New Act of Stealthing
What is BDSM exactly? The US National Library of Medicine National Institutes of Health defines "BDSM to indicate an inclusive concern for people interested in bondage (B), domination (D), submission (S), sadism (the same “S”) and masochism (M). When citing research that uses the term SM (alternately “S/M” and “S&M”), we keep the term. Sometimes BDSM is… Continue reading BDSM – Fact Against Fiction